If you’re anything like me, then confidence probably isn’t something that comes naturally, and is something that is constantly holding you back from doing certain things, speaking to certain people or taking certain opportunities. Low confidence becomes a burden that just seems to get in the way of everything I do, and constantly holds me back from seizing the moment, or allowing my voice to be heard.
I’ve been struggling with confidence issues for the last nine years or so – ( yes, funny enough I wasn’t always such a quiet and shy person) and I can honestly say that it has impacted every aspect of my life.
What some people don’t know, is that low confidence can also ( In my case at least) affect how you see yourself, which then translates into how you treat yourself. I always thought that I deserved to be overlooked, or that my opinion wouldn’t really make much of a difference and so that’s how I lived my life, openly embracing my non-existant level of confidence rather than trying to work around it.
This is where personal style comes in. Considering the fact that I couldn’t ( and still struggle) to voice my opinions verbally, or express myself by speaking ( on any matter ) I decided to see if I could use my voice in a non-verbal way – the way I dressed.
I thought, that if I couldn’t physically speak about my personal identity and what interests me – I’d try to show it – needless to say it was the best decision I have made for myself.
I started to dress myself in ways that made me feel like I was worth it / or that made me feel empowered rather than insignificant, and through this, I started to find my own personal style – as opposed to just copying what everyone else did just to try to fit in.
Along with my style, slowly, but surely my confidence began to grow too, not massively but It started to improve, because when I wore clothes that made me feel good, everything about me – posture smile and attitude was uplifted too.
I found ( and still find) it mind-blowing how the choices I made to try and find a sense of identity that could help me with my problem, opened up opportunities for me that I otherwise wouldn’t have had the guts to find or take.
Now I’m not saying personal style solved my confidence issues – because it hasn’t, but it has helped me feel better about myself and improved my confidence.
If any of you have / or have shared the same experience, let me know , I’d love to hear about it !